Dr. B’s Blog
Should You Stay or Go?
Unsafe, unloved, & unsatisfied – when to become unmarried? It is presumptuous to tell a person when to stay or leave a difficult relationship. It's a deeply individual choice and only you get to decide in the end if you were right or not. That being said, let’s...
Midlife – When We Want Happiness Now
When you are hit by midlife. Erik Erikson believed that identity has its origins in adolescence. He was probably correct, but only in part. While Identity may begin during middle and high school, it has its fruition as we move past forty or fifty. Why? After living a...
Should You Forgive?
Forgiving - sometimes easy, sometimes impossible. There is no rule that requires that you forgive. Period. While religion often promotes forgiveness, ultimately it's something that cannot be compelled or required. Forgiveness requires a special kind of thinking that...
Is He The One?
Is She The One? We get together for many reasons, and not always the right ones. Inevitably the question comes up... Is he or she the one? Let’s examine essential questions that can help you come to the right answer for yourself. You want to get this right when, even...
Leaving Pain Behind and Moving On
A Guest Blog by Heather Edwards. Lingering resentment from things that have gone wrong is hard to shake. Whether it’s the result of a bad break up or a job loss, it’s best to find some resolution. It would be wonderful if we all got exactly what we wanted, and when we...
Funerals, Psychology and Cost
Most people know something about death and dying thanks to Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and others. We know about the stages of grief, including denial, anger, depression and acceptance. We know about guilt and that deep feeling of loss. But, how much do we talk about the...
The Mind of a Shopaholic: Oniomania
Oniomania is a strange name for a common problem: Shopaholism Here's Dr. Hindie Klein's take on it. The Mind of a Shopaholic: Some people shop themselves into an addiction. An alcoholic can give up booze, a gambler can give up on Las Vegas, but you have to shop. This...
The Borderline/Narcissistic Mother
Are you the child of a Borderline or Narcissistic mother? Not sure? It is a complicated topic, and while there's overlap, this guest blog by Daniel Lobel PhD may help you to tell the difference. Self Centered Nurture: Children of mothers...
The Narcissistic Boss
Narcissism in the Workplace: You probably wonder why your boss seems to give you such a hard time. He builds you up, only to tear you down. She sees the bad and not the good. He makes you anxious and worried. Do any of these behaviors make a person...
Sibling Rivalry & The New Baby
This Guest Blog is by Hindie M. Klein. --------------------------------------- A new child changes your life. And, if you already have a child, it changes his or her life as well – forever. Nowadays, many people live wonderful lives without children. They define...
Old & Happy – The Secret Formula
What do we do when the mountains to climb are inside of us? Research seems to support that many of us acutally get happier as we age. It's not surprising, because we've had decades of perspective on life, despite all its hardships. Yes, we have aches and pains. And,...
Mark Banschick, MD
Mark R. Banschick, M.D. 215 Katonah Avenue Katonah, New York 10536 914-232-9000 Background Mark Banschick, MD is a child and adolescent psychiatrist in full time private practice in New York. He is a graduate of GeorgetownUniversityHospital in General Psychiatry and...
The Intelligent Divorce
You can raise healthy kids, even through a divorce. The Intelligent Divorce Program was designed by Dr. Mark Banschick to help you avoid common divorce related mistakes; we even give you tips on how to deal effectively with your ex. Our commitment - Your kids come...
God, “Why Have You Made Me Your Target”? (Job 7:20)
Why do good people suffer? Is it a punishment? Or, is there something terribly wrong with this idea? An ancient text called The Book of Job has a worthwhile take on your suffering. It's message is modern, brilliant and on the money. Job's story may help you a lot....
Making Your Own Luck
Why is it that some people seem to have all the luck? Casie has the best boyfriends. They treat her well and aren’t high maintenance. While not everyone works out, it’s as if Casie simply flows onto the next one. Or she’s happy being single. You, on the other hand,...
The Influence of a Narcissistic Father
“Half the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don’t mean to do harm, but the harm (that they cause) does not interest them. Or they do not see it, or they justify it because they are absorbed in the endless struggle to...
Divorce, Illness & Life’s Uncertainties – 9 Ways to Manage
Everybody gets a turn going through bad times. And, sometimes it feels like it’ll never end. Case Example: Jody’s husband, Sam was just diagnosed with treatable form of cancer. Everything has changed. Sam had been full of energy, the center of the party. Now, he’s...
Love Is an Action-Don’t Wait For It
"Where there is love there is life" - Mahatma Gandhi We live in the entertainment era; a time when we sit back and things just happen. We go to the movies, pay an outrageous price, get the popcorn and relax. The flick does the rest. We go to the supermarket...
Treating trauma: 8 Ways to Detox Yourself
Steven, 25, fails again at school. There are many reasons; he is distractible, he smokes too much weed, and he doesn’t really like to study. But, what sticks in his head are ancient words from his long gone father: “Steven, you're lazy. You'll never amount to much.”...
Ten Thing That Can Help If You Had A Narcissistic Father
You are now in your twenties or thirties and you find yourself having problems in relationships. You look back on your own upbringing, and think about your “wonderful” father. He was the hit of the party, knew everyone and made things happen. You couldn’t get enough....
Too angry? Not angry enough?
“Anybody can become angry- that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way- that is not within everybody’s power and is not so easy”- Aristotle. Handling Your Anger:...
Wrongdoing, Regret and Change
Wrongdoing and Regret: Morgan Freeman, Robert De Niro and Lance Armstrong have something in common. It's Regret. Freeman and De Niro play roles depicting the power of regret: when you've done the unforgivable. And, in real life, Lance Armstrong has sullied a sport he...
Unforgivable Hurt: Should therapists encourage patients to forgive?
Have you been wronged? Is it unforgivable. Sometimes bad things are done to good people; well more than sometimes. • You are betrayed by your best friend who steals your wife. • You’ve been humiliated and beaten by a narcissistic alcoholic for fifteen years. • Your...
Sometimes, Mom Is Not Enough–The Risks of Narcissistic Rage
Male Rage: Newtown presents us with many legitimate issues; gun control, inadequate psychiatric care and violence video games are just a few. But, there’s a divorce and father perspective to this story - and a story of rage as well. First off, I don’t want to judge...
Happy Relationships–The Science of Love and Health
Having seen too many divorces and breakups, I am always interested in writers who help couples make it together despite the many twists and turns of being in a relationship. John Gerson helps couples find love again. John’s short article documents how science is...
Eight Ways to Feel Better Despite Everyday Trauma
Trauma exists in our everyday lives. It may not be the trauma of war or rape, but it still hurts. The good news is that you can live life with less stress and more vitality. But first you have to know what you are dealing with. Let me explain. Micro Traumas: Life is...
Is There a Narcissist in Your Life?
Pretty as a picture Sweeter than a swisher Mad 'cause I'm cuter than the girl that's with you I don't gotta talk about it baby you can see it But if you want I'll be happy to repeat it (Keri Hilson) Do narcissists exist? Those of you who have dealt with a...
Overcoming Neediness
It’s one thing to be close to your boyfriend; it’s something else altogether to be clingy. You hate it. He hates it. And it feels like you’re both trapped. Clinginess is a form of dependency, which is not, in itself, a bad thing. But when it deepens into desperation,...
Can The Holidays Be An Antidote To Our Collective Stress?
It’s the festive season…we’ve bought gifts, received gifts, exchanged gifts. We’ve organized large and festive family meals, visited friends and been merry. Let’s take a moment to see what this season is all about. Religion is a complex thing. For some, Christmas is a...
Psychiatric Illness is Not the Only Reason for Violence
We are getting too familiar with this. A mass shooting of school age children in a wonderful, Connecticut suburb, not far from my home town, numbs the mind. Last year, a murder suicide occurred in another neighborhood where I happen to work. That alone was too much –...