Child Custody - Children and Divorce

When A Spouse Withholds Intimacy

May 16, 2012 By TID Admin Leave a Comment

Do you find your spouse controlling, but not intimate? Is she too easily angered after sex or avoids it altogether? Does he hold back while devoting all his warmth to the kids? Are you living like room mates, without the sweet softness of devoted lovers? Welcome to the field of intimacy and its disorders. While there are many reasons for relationship problems, from chronic depression to chemical dependency, it’s not uncommon for intimacy trouble to have its origins in your personal … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Bad Habits, Balance, Communication, Control, Happiness, marriage, Rejection, Relationships

Mother’s Day: A Time To Appreciate What You’ve Got

May 13, 2012 By TID Admin Leave a Comment

Mother’s Day, a time to appreciate what you've got: If you’re a parent, or think about being a parent, know one thing – parenting is not about freedom. It's about love; because the minute you deliver or adopt a child, your life changes forever. You are no longer the center of your existence - nor is your partner. I know that you know this, but children demand attention, work and love; and often on their schedule. Welcome to motherhood, with all it's demands and commitments. I … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Children Coping, Family, Kids, Relationships

The Physics Of Love And Intimacy

May 12, 2012 By TID Admin Leave a Comment

Intimacy is a field, much like an energy field in physics: You are in one state before you enter, but once inside, reality changes—both for the better and for the worse. Many avoid the power of this field; and some can’t live without it. Physics has its space-time continuum. Falling in love places you in a feeling-time continuum that blends the past and the present with the future. It’s potent—and it draws its source from a magical experience in time. Just as great rivers … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Communication, Dating After Divorce, Happiness, Health, marriage, Relationships

Divorce, Dating, New Love and The Effect On Your Children

May 11, 2012 By TID Admin Leave a Comment

Question: My ex and I split 3 years ago after 4 years together. We have one daughter. Since the breakup, we've managed to become good friends, and that's important to me Answer: This is a very good start. You and your ex have a precious daughter together and the fact that you are staying good friends, despite the hurt and loss of a divorce is a big thing. First, it’s good for your health because you’re not stewing in anger and resentment all the time. Many marriages don’t work out … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Children Coping, Dating After Divorce, Happiness, Kids, Relationships

Does The Stand Your Ground Law Really Make Us Safer?

May 9, 2012 By TID Admin Leave a Comment

The Trayvon Martin/George Zimmerman case is making headlines. An unarmed boy is killed. The killer is a man who claims to have responded to a threat. Plus, a law supports a potentially lethal defense, if a person “reasonably” believes that they are in imminent danger. Then there are other factors: race, ethnicity, fear, alienation and guns. Tragic is a poor word for this real life horror. Blame abounds – and nothing can bring this poor young man back. The gun lobby has a point of … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Balance, Communication, Control, Events, Grief, Prayer, Relationships, The Internet, Truth

Divorce: When A Teen Develops An Eating Disorder

May 7, 2012 By TID Admin Leave a Comment

Divorce is one of the most stressful events a family will ever go through. Part of what makes it so difficult is the fact that unlike many other stressors, the effects are prolonged - and unpredictable. In addition, it impacts everyone—child and parent alike—in varying ways and and to various degrees. For teenagers caught up in the web of divorce, it’s quite emotional, and in a myriad of ways. For instance, sometimes the teen experiences a parental abandonment, as the adults become … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Children Coping, Communication, Divorce, Grief, Health, How to Talk to Your Kids, Rejection, Separation Anxiety Disorder, Transitions, Treatment

Marriage: When Love, Family And Community Get Lost

May 5, 2012 By TID Admin Leave a Comment

I am a fan of the innovative writer and psychoanalyst, Erich Fromm (1900-1980). As a man ahead of his time, Fromm understood the ills of the modern world before most of us knew that we were in trouble. He saw that a modern life is often empty and can lead to desperate behavior, all in an attempt to “be happy.” In short, Fromm warned that we were increasingly becoming alienated from ourselves and others, leading to addictions, a lack of healthy satisfaction, and disposable … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Balance, Communication, Divorce, Family, Friends, Happiness, Health, marriage, Relationships

Marital Hope and Expectations

May 3, 2012 By TID Admin Leave a Comment

It's spring, and with it are new flowers,warm breezes and holidays of renewal, like Passover and Easter. In this second, in our series on marriage and relationships, I would like to promote the idea of freedom; as in what freedom can mean for a marriage. And, it may not be what you think. Freedom to Slavery: You entered marriage freely—and years later, you want stay in it as a free man or woman. Moreover, you want to be free to be yourself and be loved for being you. Yet, as you … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Bad Habits, Balance, Communication, Family, Happiness, marriage

Anxiety: How To Get Yourself And Your Kids Through a Divorce

May 1, 2012 By TID Admin Leave a Comment

According to the National Institute of Health, anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness among Americans, with some estimates reaching 40 million people. It's generally accepted that effective treatment for most anxiety combines medication and psychotherapy. And, I agree. These protocals work and I've used them for years. The issue at hand is whether we can do better.At Issue: So, are drug interventions always needed? A common trap that people get into with medications in … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Balance, Children Coping, Divorce, Divorce Process, Effect, Grief, Happiness, Health, Kids, Separation Anxiety Disorder

The Narcissistic Ex, Part V: Humility Is Key To Success

April 28, 2012 By TID Admin Leave a Comment

The mind is tricky and sometimes it can backfire on you. When you have to deal with a difficult person, a difficult decision or you're having a tough time parenting, it's essential to think clearly. And who always does, right? In this series, we've been discussing the problem of divorcing a person displaying narcissistic features. And, it's not easy. So, today I bring a cautionary tale from my life. It's about hubris and stupidity. It's about naïveté and being green behind the … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Balance, Control, Divorce, Domestic Abuse, Grief, Malignant Divorce, Narcissistic Ex, Relationships